9th October, 2011 will mark what should have been John Lennon’s 71st birthday. Lennon is a legend remembered for many things; however, for me he is most memorable for penning the line ‘I get by with a little help from my friends.’ This is because friendship is one of those treasures we often overlook. It could be said that friendship is like a garden, which you intend on maintaining, but then you decide to do it tomorrow, and we all know that somehow that tomorrow never comes.
We used to consider social networking sites as the savior of friendships. But how many of those 400-500 friends on Facebook are you actually friends with? Your face burns with defiance ‘I’m friends with most of them, I just don’t have time.’ We claim to be unable to find time for our friends. But I would suggest that this is because we are using the wrong verb. The aim is not to find time but to make time. The truth is, by the time you return home from a hard day’s schooling, you are so drained by the many surface level interactions that you can’t bear the thought of one more phone call, one more conversation, even if it is with the person we know to be the most willing to listen to us when we are grouchy.
In the past two years, we’ve lost colleagues to tragic accidents. We weren’t given the chance to say goodbye. Don’t risk this. Tend to your garden. Acknowledge those forgotten friends and suddenly everything becomes better. Remember, you might get by with a little help from your friends but it’s a two way street.